Upasana Kamineni, wife of actor Ram Charan, recently posted a long note on social media addressing the violence and hardships Indian women deal with after marriage and urged her followers to wait for the right person to come along. She asked her fans to wait for their own ‘Ram’ while sharing how women did not need marriage anymore for things like companionship, status or children and said that they should not marry just for the sake of it.
Upasana began the note by talking about how women in this country are taking important life decisions based on their own development and affordability and not due to societal pressure. “Women are approaching life more holistically and practically. Marriage and motherhood are no longer obligations; they’re conscious choices,” added Upasana. The 35-year-old was quick to acknowledge her own privilege and said that her education, upbringing and the fact that she found the right partner so early are all things that helped her make bold choices.
Upasana Kamineni then shifted the conversation to the importance of marriage in contemporary times, especially for women, and even cited a Harvard University professor and her work. She argued that as the dynamics of society are changing, so is the importance of marriage in a woman’s life. She said, “Many women are financially independent, and some are even more successful than the men around them. They’re raising children on their own terms. It’s no longer about needing a man; it’s about choosing a partner who respects you and sees you as an equal.”
Upasana went on to cite NCRB (National Crime Records Bureau) data to prove how many cases of violence against women occur in their own homes after marriage. She demanded that men needed to be raised in a way so that their emotional maturity could match that of women. She even demanded other women with similar privilege to help empower those around them, the ones with less of a head start in life. She ended her message by saying, “And to every woman wondering if she’s being ‘too picky’ or ‘too late’, you’re not. Wait for your Ram, or walk your path solo. Both are valid and powerful.”
Upasana Kamineni got married to Ram Charan in 2012, and the couple welcomed their daughter, Klin Kaara Konidela, in 2023. Ram was last seen in the film Game Changer (2025), which failed to make a mark at the box office.
